Good advice from psychologists.
To start the new year with a clean slate, you need to make room for new plans, people, thoughts and goals. It is important to say goodbye to the past that is no longer interesting, tiring, frustrating and makes it hard to move on.
Extra stuff
One basic rule: if this thing is useless for you or brings you no pleasure, decide on a breakup. Second rule: if in a year you never did not touch her, most likely, do not touch. Look at these things sober look in a few days. Then separate things that are not ready to break free from those who quietly donate or give away. Sell all the junk that you want to sell, especially for equipment, furniture and clothes in good condition.
Now the fun begins. Things left after the sale, divide it into those who place on the landfill and those that are, most likely, someone is sure to delight — boring dishes and linens, too much cactus dress from where you grew up, the food, not coming up to your cat. Invite guests and arrange the evening of sharing things with friends and friends.
Exchange of books may be the beginning of a little reader’s club, sharing clothes and makeup will grow into a series of happy hen, the exchange of homemade stuff or baby clothes can be a perfect activity for parents at the weekend. Always think about the things you give, was in good condition — and your guests would be pleased to receive them as a gift. And even if after such events remained unnecessary things, you can always turn them in for processing, to give to the social welfare centers and religious organizations.
Toxic friends
To analyze which relationships with the people you most often upset and do this for objective reasons. In the case of parents, children and partners need to look at the situation from many sides. Sometimes you need a professional help of a psychologist or psychotherapist. If they are friends, colleagues, acquaintances and relatives, try to take the necessary distance. Instead of toxic people think about someone who inspires you, and try in the new year to communicate more with them. Think about those who have long wanted to get closer, and start this approach.
Do not engage in active communication with those who gives you the feeling of frustration and their own failure, do the duty of courtesy or neutral presence. Think about whether you are surrounded at work and at home beneficial environment comfortable you are with those with whom you share an apartment, work space, creative projects. Take a break from those whose condemnation takes you out of yourself, and try not to waste time in conversations with those who you do not support.
Unpleasant duty
During the month, keep a diary describing the time spent on different things, work and non-work. Including leisure, pleasant idleness, family care, walks and trips to the beauty salon — this diary should be all. Let’s see how many cases dictated by these promises and personal responsibility and how much of their own desires. If many of the action — the fear to bring others and a sense of duty, not desire, it’s time to think.
Refrain from unnecessary and tiring your duties, review the schedule, discuss with your partner the management of domestic Affairs and free time with friends. You don’t have to be extreme and to control every process in your life, try to share the responsibility with others.
Bad habits
To see the truth and to decide which bad habits peculiar to you how you want to part with them and they will buy when it comes. The first thing to check in the morning mail and then nervous while having Breakfast on the go, — not Smoking, but also a bad habit. To stay up late and delay the work — definitely a bad habit. To make purchases on credit, do not delay saving for the future — a bad habit. To self-medicate instead of medical consultations, another bad habit.
Honestly admit to yourself what bad habits you feel are destructive, and gradually start to get rid of them within the next month, without any final terms. Think about the little things around you help you to be happier teach yourself to short, but regular morning exercises, get the expense of savings, practice hours without the gadgets and computer. Than the smoother will be the process of abandoning deleterious habits, the less will be the probability of disruption and dissatisfaction that you do not meet the plan.
Regrets about the past
Let’s recap all the disappointments and regrets of the year, write them down and calmly speak with him alone. Choose a day when you will have a neutral or good mood, to analyze what constructive have given you that negative experience.
Think about what happened to these unfortunate events and depended whether they are from you: separate the situation that you could not influence (financial crisis, health problems and other force majeure events), from those in which you made decisions. Justify yourself for past decisions, think about what emotions you had in mind when I acted imprudently and improperly.
See also: by following these two important rules, you probably will sleep well
Write down these emotions in simple words separated by a comma and notice what mood and condition is dominant over you when you are doing something then to regret.
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