Psychologists told how to survive new year’s depression

Not all happy holidays.

New year celebration is not for everyone. In recent times, there are many people who refuse to celebrate it.

Quietly to himself

Among those who “banned” the holidays, a lot of introverts. They basically don’t like the noise, bustle and history with guests. In the family, they still somehow agree on the celebration, but they try not to arrange. And totally not worried about it. New year’s holidays, such people perceive as a great opportunity to arrange extra leave — in the family, with presents, but without the traditional Olivier and firecrackers.

Not in the habit

Those who do not like or can not arrange holidays, increase the same children. They may not mind, but do not have the habit to celebrate something at home. That’s not noted. But such people do not mind to join someone in the holiday rush.

Dislike

From childhood — the situation when the person refuses to celebrate his birthday, feeling not enough meaningful. As a child, he suffered from nedolyublennosti, undervalued and grew up subconsciously believing themselves to be unworthy of attention. Often he does not understand this, and the reason why the day of birth for him is not important enough day.

The clock is ticking

Some people think birthdays and New year as another step towards old age, which very afraid. In this case, the problem is not the neglect of the holidays, and why a person is so afraid of the natural course of things, you might need to deal with the therapist.

Something went wrong

Quite often, people no longer celebrate any holiday if it involves a traumatic memory. For example, in New year’s eve in the family somebody dies, and all this event supersedes it in importance. Sometimes the cause becomes forgotten childhood traumas: pain is dulled and memory didn’t preserve memories, but the need to celebrate a particular holiday there.

Alone

New year, as you know, a family holiday. And others involve something fun with family and friends. But if no one? There seems to be something to celebrate, and with whom. Even if a person then there is the inner circle, the habit of ignoring important dates often remains. Such people often grumble that Valentine’s Day and March 8, undermined the dignity of people, that 23 February is “only for those who serve” new year holidays are long and provoke drunkenness, and on may 1, why.

To celebrate healthy!

Therapists believe that to celebrate the holidays need. The human psyche is structured — it is peculiar to plan and take stock. It’s the holidays, particularly New year and birthday, give the opportunity to stop for a moment, to take the interim “balance” and ask yourself: where do I go? Something went wrong and planned not done? Not a problem and not a reason for self-flagellation. Negative experience — too experience, and it is often even more useful than positive.

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