The expert has given his advice in this delicate situation.
It often happens that one bad step or act completely destroys the trust between two people. However, it is worth remembering that confidence come with age, which means that it can be earned back.
This was reported by the psychologist Ekaterina Melnikova.
“First, you need to understand how and why expectations have been deceived. If, for example, she never told my young man that dances on the other it equates to treason, the situation is solved very simply. After all, the man just didn’t know what he is doing, something wrong. It simply needs to convey this information to your second half. After that a couple should talk and find a compromise, and to discuss some ground rules,” – said the expert.
According to E. Melnikova, there is another option, when the person seems to have been notified, but did not understand what he did wrong. In this case, it is very good to analyze the situation, perhaps ask for help from friends or relatives. Also you need to think twice whether to establish a relationship in such a situation. After all, if you can’t accept the position of another person, then you most likely have a very different upbringing and moral principles and in any case not on the road.
“Oh, and the latest version of the betrayal was quite deliberately and for personal gain. In this case, it is unlikely to earn the trust of the will”, – added the expert.
The psychologist also stressed that forgiveness in any case it is impossible to fix anything because it does not reduce emotional pain and completely corrects the situation. However, forgiveness is very important for the return of confidence, because if one of the participants in a situation will take the position of a judge (constantly criticize and condemn others), to restore the relationship not be possible.
“In General, I recommend that the people who have found themselves in this situation to say. If one partner ignores the other, then the second is to do everything to be heard. Otherwise, every day the pain and hurt will become more and more” – summed up the E. Melnikov.
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