The problem, familiar to many.
We publish interesting material analyst Marion Woodman on how to get yourself under control and stop overeating.
Our installation “I must be perfect”, “everything must be perfect” (because they are afraid that otherwise we will lose control, will not succeed, we will not love we will not be happy) — in a literal sense makes to overeat. Sooner or later the desire for perfection leads to failure — it is the law of life energy.36_result
Woodman describes two scenarios at the peak of stress and fatigue, most often in the evening after work, one leads to gluttony, the other turns the situation in a positive direction, helps to relieve accumulated stress without overeating.
1. Internal monologue while moving energy in the direction of fit of gluttony (we’re releasing energy in the unconscious):
“I’m exhausted. I feel devastated by the people who surround me. I’m hungry. I can’t concentrate. I need some food. In my life there is no love. Nobody loves me. I can’t help it. I need a sweet. I have to get the sweet. I can’t deny everything. My whole life is wrong, but I can’t help it. I’m not to blame. I am unable to cope with it. I can do it. Can’t. Can’t.”
Woodman commented on this negative mantra:
“From a psychological point of view, this woman is not taking responsibility for your Shadow and does not take into account the real situation in your life to take any action that could to help her. Refusing to take responsibility, however, she denies his guilt, and its harmful behavior. Infantile (children’s) desire instant gratification causes her to be indifferent to your own feelings, thus it opens the way.negative emotions”. The consequences of this overwhelming wave of negativity will be apparent later, when an attack of gluttony reaches its apotheosis.
2. Internal monologue while moving energy in the direction of stress without overeating (we napravlyaet energy to consciousness). This monologue sounds like a positive mantra:
“I’m tired. I love myself. Love my body. I allow to take care of me. I love my inner woman. What would be better to feed her? I really want to eat it? Maybe listen to some music? To dance? Yes, I’m full, but I’m trying osvobodili your real female body, regardless of its form. What is the current reality? Happened to me what happened. I need to relax and calm down. I want to maintain my life. I can do it. I can do it. I can.”
In this monologue completeness is regarded as fact, as if she is the bright part of the Shadow, which is probably never had to live completely. In contrast to the “I can’t” (these words reinforce the pattern of negative thinking), the setting is positive, contributing to the continued strengthening of self-confidence. The stronger becomes the belief in yourself, the less the desire to eat unpleasant emotions. The key to success is to listen to yourself and honestly Express your feelings in the moment (they hurt, so we try to numb them with food).
Review Woodman:
“In “the Chinese book of changes” refers to the constant changes that occur within the person. The male Yang energy, energy of creativity, constantly and relentlessly drives us forward to the goal until it is too strong to cause breakdown, and then from the depths appears the feminine receptive Yin and gradually the person moves, helping him to reach the top. Life is a constant quest to find the balance between these two forces. The more Mature the person becomes, the more he is able to avoid extremes that are associated with each pole. So the pendulum is not gaining too much amplitude, atlonas far to the right only for the fact that then no less destructive force will deviate to the left, causing the senseless cycle of action and depression…
The more I become white and fluffy on one pole, the longer and becomes black plume of energy that unconsciously accumulate behind my back.”
So, the point is to avoid extremes and seek the middle ground — and in all areas of life, not only in terms of food. If you feel that you are knocked out of equilibrium — processed, or, conversely, flawed, talk too much and get tired of people or, conversely, too little and miss a live conversation with an interesting person, too strictly follow the diet and zealously engaged in sports or Vice versa, ignoring all ideas of a healthy lifestyle — even situation.
Listen to yourself — as soon as you feel “close” — ask what’s going on? Pulls a strand of hair and now she’s not “perfect”? Smile and leave like it is. Sitting in a tense, uncomfortable position because someone whom you shy? Imagine that you are home, and sit as comfortable as you can, take a few calm deep breaths. Agree with a close friend, not to hurt, but suffer from their own “white fluffy”? Honestly Express your feelings — what you like and what doesn’t and why.
These, at first glance, the little things — protection against overeating and low self-esteem. And remember, the best “good enough” than “perfect”. Perfect never happens, but “good enough” gives you a healthy mind and a good mood.
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